Gender abolition my left butt cheek

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha, two can play at this game:

“nonbinary” binarist: I’m here to subvert the gender binary!
Feminist: That’s great! So you want to help people be comfortable in the bodies they have, without depending on capitalistic BigMedPharma?
“nonbinary” binarist: Wait what? Gatekeeping is wrong and bad because suicide!
Feminist: But surely, you encourage kids to wear and do what they like, without telling them they must be the opposite sex?
“nonbinary” binarist: Obviously a 2-year-old girl who doesn’t like barrettes needs his trans identity validated! (*eyeroll*) And don’t call me Shirley, can’t you see I identify as masculine today?
Feminist: Hmmmm. So you oppose the abuse of women by and in pornography and prostitution?
“nonbinary” binarist: Hell no, that shit is sexxaay!
Feminist: But you must support efforts against harms to women and girls like genital mutilation, child marriage, and “honor” killings?
“nonbinary” binarist:  Islamophobe!
Feminist: So you’re completely on board with every single harmful, sexist abuse ever invented by the patriarchy.  How exactly are you “subverting the gender binary” again?
“nonbinary” binarist:  You’re literally murdering me!! I hope you get raped!

The best analysis of the transgender movement I have seen

By roslynholcomb, from a comment on a post at GenderTrender:

Yet another divide in #TeamTrans. Pigs in Wigs vs. The Passers. The gender crit trans tend to skew younger and more passable. More likely to be dysmorphic and gay. Pigs in Wigs are older, couldn’t pass if they were Joe Montana and het. Basically the PIW have appropriated the trans identity for the purpose of sexual gratification, and the Passers (rightfully) resent them for it. (Ironic, I know, since the Passers have appropriated womanhood from actual females).

My guess is that the Passers understand perfectly well that the PIWs are totally undermining any chance they have for acceptance, plus, at least one poster on Tumblr asserts they make a habit of exploiting and perving on the younger Passers. They also understand that the PIWs are homophobic as hell and hate them even more than they hate women. Given the PIWs propensity for violence they’re probably as dangerous to the Passers as they are to actual women. (Indeed the library where New Narratives met had to hire extra security.) Passers also know that heightened attention to #TeamTrans is bad news because it brings them under greater scrutiny. The whole purpose of being a Passer is to you know, pass. Very few trans are up to that level of scrutiny and they know it.

Being gay men for the most part, the Passers understand that at a certain level respectability politics must be adhered to. Much like gay men realized that running around at Pride in a g-string didn’t benefit them nearly as much as making an effort to adhere to social mores, thus Marriage Equality was born. Most folks went from thinking of gays as freaky men fucking each other in the ass, to that nice couple that always brings the potato salad to potluck. And my, doesn’t their yard look nice! The Passers know they stand a good chance of that same level of acceptance, indeed many already have it. Except for one problem, the PIWs. Being het white men, with money to boot, the PIWs have been socialized to believe they are entitled to anything they goddamned well please. They are about dominance and forcing others to their will. That’s what they get off on. They’re white men dammit and it’s their way or no way at all.

Here’s the problem; from what I’ve seen most people seem to believe that most trans are Passers when in fact most are PIW and freaky as fuck, to boot. Obviously it would be smart for the Passers to work toward getting rid of the PIW, but they seem incapable of doing so, presumably because they’re well-to-do white men. This whole Planet Fitness debacle is pretty much the worst thing that could happen for #TeamTrans as it makes people more aware of their dirty little secret. It’ll be interesting to see how the whole thing shakes out.

Hush Now

One time I was out driving around with my niece who was about 10. I think we were doing a few errands and then we were going to do something fun. She started playing that game where you repeat what the other person says until they’re ready to scream. The first few times I was like, yeah, ha ha, so adorable. And as kids will do, she kept going.

I finally said, “Please stop that now.” She said, “Please stop that now!” I said, “OK, really, enough.” She said, “OK, really, enough!” And laughed maniacally. Etc.

I was glad she was having a good time — but I was really hating the game by that point, so I said, “Really, knock it off, or we aren’t going to [do whatever fun thing we were planning on] and we will go home instead.” And she said, “Really, knock it off, or we aren’t going to ….”

So I turned the car around and drove home.

Oooooohhhh, she was maaaaaaaaaaaaad.

It seemed like she wasn’t very used to people being unwilling to put up with extended foolishness.

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I’m thinking maybe it’s time for whoever the “grownups” might be in this interminable interaction to step up and be similarly unpopular for a little while.

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